…will, if we’re wearing something particularly revealing or have made ourselves up to look nice. But there is so much we’re encouraged to hide — our ambition, our aggression, our pain. Our instinct is to apologize for our accomplishments, for our darkness — we are rarely celebrated f…
Emily J. Smith
I see a link between this and what you touched on later - that many men don't, in fact, want to be seen by a woman, because they'd rather not confront weaknesses they haven't had to consider.
Women are encouraged to hide our shadows and messiness, and men don't want theirs pointed out. And yet, as your entire article says so perfectly, seeing and being seen fully (shadows, complications, layers and all) is how you reach real understanding and deep connection. To learn, to change, to be inspired. It's rare to find people who want to go this deep.
This was so, so good.